Why Every Pastor Needs a Shoulder Outside the Circle

Why Every Pastor Needs a Shoulder Outside the Circle

Pastoral ministry is both a privilege and a weight. Shepherding souls, carrying the burdens of others, and standing firm in the Word is a holy calling, but one that often leaves the shepherd himself in need of care. While a pastor is surrounded by his team, staff, and congregation, there is a unique value in having an outside shoulder to lean on someone who knows, but doesn’t know too closely. Someone who can offer a non-biased perspective, rooted in godly wisdom.

Biblical Wisdom for Counsel

Proverbs 11:14 reminds us, “Where there is no guidance, a people falls, but in an abundance of counselors there is safety.” This doesn’t mean a pastor replaces his team or disregards the voices of those he serves with. Instead, it points to the wisdom of seeking counsel from beyond our immediate circle. Having a godly friend or mentor outside the church can help a pastor process challenges without the weight of internal politics or unspoken expectations.

Moses had Jethro (Exodus 18), Paul had Barnabas (Acts 9:27), and even Jesus withdrew to spend time with His Father (Mark 1:35). These moments of guidance and refreshment outside the “inner circle” demonstrate the need for perspective, accountability, and rest.

Not a Replacement, But a Gift

An outside voice doesn’t replace a pastor’s team, it strengthens it. A trusted friend or mentor outside the ministry context can help guard against burnout, isolation, and discouragement. This person isn’t swayed by the same pressures or biases of the local church but can speak truth in love, reminding the pastor of his identity in Christ rather than his performance in ministry.

A Call to Humility

At the core, seeking outside counsel is an act of humility. It’s acknowledging that no pastor is sufficient on his own. Galatians 6:2 calls us to “bear one another’s burdens, and so fulfill the law of Christ.” Pastors are not exempt from this. They, too, need shoulders to lean on, voices to encourage them, and hands to lift them up when weary.

Final Encouragement

Pastor, your calling is weighty but not meant to be carried alone. Find that outside shoulder, a mentor, a spiritual accountability partner, a fellow pastor who can walk with you in honesty and prayer. Your ministry will not be diminished by it; it will be strengthened. And your flock will be blessed as you shepherd them out of a place of renewal rather than exhaustion.